Is This Me?™ The 3-Word Question That Votes for Your True Self

I was standing in my kitchen at 6:30 AM, coffee mug next to me, when I caught myself agreeing to helping mix a song for a friend when I had zero bandwidth. I hit the send button “Yeah, of course. Send it over" while something in my chest was quietly screaming no.

This was yet another action that led to me realizing that I had been living unconsciously for so long. I had forgotten to check if the person making decisions was actually... me.

We make thousands of decisions daily, most happening unconsciously. We're not alone in this. And we don't have to stay there.

The Space Between Trigger and Action

There's this moment when someone asks you something. Or your phone lights up with a notification. Or a decision needs to be made. 

In that split second before you respond, there's a moment. Most of us rush right past it.

But what if we didn't rush past that space?

What if, in that tiny gap between what happens and how we react, we paused and asked: "Is this me?™"

Not "What should I do?" or "What would make them happy?" or "Let’s me just say yes because I’d rather deal with the discomfort of doing it over the discomfort of saying no "

Just: Is this me?

Why These Three Words Work When Everything Else Doesn't

Here's what I learned: most self-help tools tell you what to think or how to feel without taking you into account.

This question does something different.

It doesn't tell you anything. It simply asks you to notice.

The question works because it's:

• Fast enough for real life (3 seconds, not 30 minutes)
• Specific enough to cut through mental noise
• Gentle enough to use without judgment
• Universal enough to apply to anything

It's about catching yourself in the act of being someone you're not—and then choosing differently.

The Moment Something Shifts

What can happen when you start asking "Is this me?"

That text you were about to send in frustration? You pause. Is this me? Maybe. Maybe not. Maybe there's a response that feels more like who you actually are.

That ‘yes’ you were about to say you’re not comfortable doing so? You notice. Is this me? The part of you that always says yes to avoid conflict? Or the part that knows what you actually need?

The question doesn't judge your impulses. It just creates space to recognize them.

This Isn't About Perfect Choices

"Is this me?" isn't a magical phrase for making perfect decisions.

Sometimes you'll ask the question and still choose the same thing. You might realize you're acting from fear or people-pleasing or old patterns. And that's okay.

The point isn't to eliminate every inauthentic moment. It's to start noticing them.

Because awareness is where choice begins.

When you catch yourself mid-pattern, you suddenly have options you didn't see before. Not because the situation changed, but because you remembered you could choose differently.

HOW THE BLINK DECK SUPPORTS THIS PRACTICE

The Blink Deck was designed to help you practice conscious choice-making daily:

Morning: Each card begins with an intention that invites you to ask "Is this aligned with who I am?" Not forced positivity—honest awareness.

Throughout the day: Real-time ideas for moments when you catch yourself mid-pattern. The card moves with you as a reminder to pause and notice.

Evening: Reflection that asks: When did you choose consciously today? When did you catch yourself acting from old patterns? What shifts when you remember to ask "Is this me?"

30 unique intentions across six pathways—each one designed to help you recognize the difference between decisions that align with who you are and ones that come from autopilot, fear, or people-pleasing.

When an intention resonates, stay with it. When one doesn't, skip it.

No pressure to be perfect. Just practice noticing.

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How to Use It (Without Overthinking It)

Start small. Really small.

Before you respond to that text, ask: "Is this me?"

Before you order that thing online, pause: "Is this me?"

Before you agree to that plan, notice: "Is this me?"

You don't need to analyze or judge your answer. Just ask and see what comes up.

Sometimes the answer will be "Yes, this is exactly me." Perfect. Proceed.

Sometimes it'll be "No, this is my overthinking talking." Also perfect. Now you know.

Sometimes it'll be "I honestly don't know anymore." That's perfect too. Not knowing is the beginning of curiosity.

The practice is what we call Imperfect Mindfulness and builds what we call Functional Mindfulness. Awareness that works within real life rather than requiring perfect conditions.

The Question That Becomes a Compass

Over time, "Is this me?" becomes less like a technique and more like a way of being.

One pause at a time. One choice at a time. One moment of asking: "Is this me?"

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Related Reading

• What is Intentional Living? - The philosophy behind conscious choice-making

• Blink True™: Living in Alignment With Your Authentic Self - When your actions match who you really are

• The Blink Method™: Your 4-Step Guide to Conscious Living - The complete framework for transformation

• What is Functional Mindfulness™? - Understanding awareness that works in real life